Questions

(Quotes from Ed in Red)

Saturday, November 29, 2008

Goatee Indicator

Dear Ed,

I hope you are well.

I thank you for your feed back on the last FAQ. I thank you for your sharing, generosity and commitment.

During the month of November, I got back in little too early on the long side and my drawdown was little more than usual.

During the drawdown, I notice myself rubbing my chin over and over again. Then I notice that I do that every time I go through drawdowns.

So I am suspecting that I am going through unnecessary drawdowns to catch myself in situations where I am looking at the screen and rubbing my chin. I usually grow a short goatee so I can intensify my rubbing during drawdowns.

When the drawdowns become heavy, my rubbing escalates and when draw down seems to be over my rubbing becomes lighter and finally stops.

I feel I can cut down on unnecessary drawdowns if I can find out the root feeling and change it to proactive.

Thank you for sharing your process.

You might consider taking your feelings about <rubbing your chin> to Tribe.

You might consider setting up a regular rubbing budget for yourself, say 1/2 hour in the morning and 1/2 hour in the evening in which you can intentionally and purposefully massage your beard.

Women and Men With Clean Chins

who wish to follow along

with the exercise above

can use this handy prosthetic goatee.

Clip: http://www.io.com/~sjohn/goatee.htm

Friday, November 28, 2008

Elliott Wave

The Elliott Wave is a non-definite indicator that is mostly subject to interpretation.

As such, it is the ideal tool to justify any trade as being "scientific" or "mathematical."

The Elliott Wave

Here, Elliott waves good-by to his money

and feels OK about it

since he can justify every trade

as following from

a "scientific" indicator.

Clip: http://i294.photobucket.com/albums/mm84/

Friday, November 28, 2008

K-not in Stinginess

Sir,

yesterday, I discovered that I have a big k-not in stinginess.

I was in a fast food in [City]. After ordering my meal, the waitress asked not at all discreetly "what I would want to drink?". Even though I was not at all thirsty, I said hurriedly "one Coca-Cola please". I was not all thirsty, and I would really be satisfied with a plain water. Just a plain water.

I felt embarrassed when he asked "what I would want to drink?". I made my belly contract and my eyes were looking on the right and left side by looking at my neighbors who heard his question.

Thank you for sharing your process.

Words like stingy, parsimonious, penurious, miserly and frugal imply a comparison with someone else who is more generous, perhaps even a power-shopper.

You might consider taking your feelings about <attitudes about spending money> to Tribe.

If You Hold On To Your Money

too tightly

you might not be open

to receive more.

Clip: http://bostonist.com/2005/11/21/

November 27, 2008

Wants to Invest

Ed,

Wednesday, November 26, 2008
 

Under- Over- and Critically Damped Oscillations

Hey Ed, I hope all is well. Here is a YouTube video of a physics lecture about under, over and critically damped systems. Ed, your recent posts and this video sparks some interesting ideas in my head regarding new purge methods of my equities trend following systems. Thanks.

I find the differential calculus is rather obscure and tedious - and interferes with developing a gut understanding of the dynamics. 

Professor Lewin admits he has to leave out the v² term in order to solve the equation. 

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

Positive and Negative Emotions

Ed,

In working toward my intention of "I Develop and Trade Winning Systems", I find that much of the process entails dealing with the "organic part" of the system -- me and my emotions.

I'm discovering numerous resources that are moving me toward clarity. Here's an article about positive and negative emotions that seems in alignment with TTP:

http://www.worldtrans.org/TP/TP2/TP2A-35.HTML

I realize the real work and benefit of TTP is in fully experiencing emotions and not just reading or thinking about it. In addition to practicing TTP in our local tribe, I practice TTP with my wife. I notice the additional benefit of TTP that results: connecting meaningfully with others.

I thank you for all you share. :-)

In TTP we hold that all feelings have  positive intentions and that labeling some of them as negative tends to interfere with the process of experiencing them and extracting their value.

Fractionators who divide feelings into good and bad tend to put fear and anger in the bad category and love and peacefulness in the good category.

September 26 2008

re: The Piece of Pie,

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Market Description

Hey Ed,

This describes the market better than any news I could find. This is the link where I found the photo.

Clip: http://www.authorstream.com/Content/

Octavio-11464-Funny-images-music-

Monday, November 24, 2008

Stress-Free Thanksgiving Dinner

Ed,

Monday, November 24, 2008 

Whipsaw Song Video Just ROCKSSS!!!

Hi Ed,

I saw the Whipsaw song Video, its awesome. You look great. I like the video so much, that before starting my Trading Day, I see the video regularly and gives me a great feeling. Following my Trading System rules is no more a forced discipline for me since I am now willing to follow it without any doubt. Thanks for the releasing the video. Keep releasing such videos.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Attitude Change

Back in 1929 Financial Crash it was said that some Wall Street Stockbrokers and Bankers jumped from their office windows and committed suicide when confronted with the news of their firms and clients financial ruin.

Many people were said to almost feel a little sorry for them. In 2008 the attitude has changed somewhat:

Part of the function of economic downturns is to restore compassion, community and humility - and to support people in migrating to more profitable enterprise.

It looks like we might have a way to go.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Cover Indicator

I see a lot of suffering on this cover. It makes me have some reserves about opening new short positions.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

Wants to Join The Trading Tribe

Saturday, November 22, 2008

In The Pool Business

Thank You

Friday, November 21, 2008

Parable of the Cracked Pot - Video

Friday, November 21, 2008

Magazine Cover

Ed,

I'm a member of the [City] trading tribe and have attended 3 meetings so far. I think TTP is fascinating, I can feel changes going on inside of me. I can't judge yet if these changes are good or bad, because since the most recent tribe meeting it feels like small turbulences are going on inside of me. it almost feels like losing my composure very slowly. I'm curious where this is going.

I included a cover for you because my chief told me about this indicator based on magazine covers. it's from a magazine for university students here in [Country]. the translation of the title is: "get OUT of the crisis. this is how you get started in spite of turbulences." it seems like crisis isn't over yet.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Wants to Find a Woman


Hi Ed,

Thanks for calling. I appreciate your advice, and I wrote a profile. I had a very hard time initially to describe myself, and to be specific about what kind of woman I would like to meet. Thank you for offering to take a look at it.

Please let me know what you think.

I wish I had been able to tell you more about me, and why I want to join the tribe. I was caught off guard, surprised by the call, and I could not collect my thoughts then.

From what I have read about you I am very impressed, and I respect you a lot so maybe I was intimidated at the moment.

I am not a 100% sure what you implied when you asked me about various skills if I have and if I am unhappy because not having them.

If you suggested I should have given up trading: that will not happen.

I am very enthusiastic about it, and I have never found anything that would interest me so intensely, and that persistently. I am just fascinated by it more and more. I would love to find a mentor, someone who is truly successful in it (not the crazy way like Jessie Livermore who made fortunes but went bust more then once, and then killed himself, but someone who has the risk controlled as well, and have a healthy full life)

You might consider taking your feelings about <wanting a woman> to Tribe.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Wants Help

Mr. Seykota Sir,

Its a great privilege for me to write you. I have a question about reward/risk ratio, I asked a few traders but am not sure I have the correct answer. I'd be eternally indebted to you if you could give me your opinion on this as I do realize you are a very busy man. My question is: "The trading strategy which I'm very comfortable with has a very high percentage of wins, easily above 85% of the trades are wins. I do have losses but they are few and far in between.

The thing that troubles me is the reward to risk ratio is less than one its about 0.65 well the expectancy still works out positive but the risk/reward thing troubles me a bit as everywhere else I see most people's trade systems were losses are small and the reward to risk ratio is well above 1 most times its like 3.

When I try to increase my ratio to 1 which I can, I get stopped out more often and the win to loss ratio drops. The trouble is I'm not psychologically comfy with a lower hit rate even if the reward to risk is well above 2 or 3. I prefer wider stops. Having a higher win rate sorta gives me a kind of mental satisfaction that I'm "right" in the market, so to speak.

You can answer your own questions about systems by conducting back-tests.

If you are not exactly following a system, you are likely including additional elements to medicate your feelings about Trend Trading.

November 20, 2008

200 Year-Old Prediction About Banking

Ed,
 

Thomas Jefferson

I believe that banking institutions are more dangerous to our liberties than standing armies.

If the American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations that will grow up around the banks will deprive the people of all property until their children wake-up homeless on the continent their fathers conquered.

History is likely to prove Jefferson correct. 

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Geneva Tribe

Ed,

Welcome

Geneva

November 19, 2008

Hitler in Debt - Video

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Moving On to Silicon

Thank you for the encouragement.

Monday, November 17, 2008

Understanding the Wife

You might consider taking your feelings about <she can never give me what I need> to Tribe.

When you experience the positive intention of that feeling, your relationship with your wife may become much more intimate.

Getting an Understanding

Clips:

http://i184.photobucket.com/albums/

x304/tpc0470/understanding.jpg

http://www.rd.com/living-healthy/the-ultimate-

Sunday, November 16, 2008
 

Thank You

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Question on Support and Resistance System

You might consider taking your feelings about <math> to Tribe.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Wants to Join a Tribe

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Celebration of Autumn - Video

Very nice.

The official government response to Autumn is to declare it a crisis and then to authorize billions to form an agency to try to stick the leaves back up on the trees.

This Enthusiastic Member

of the President's Commission

on Restoring Our Trees to Springtime (ROTS)

practices hoisting a leaf from the ground

in preparation to re-attach it

to an appropriate branch.

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Forrest Gump on Mortgage Backed Securities
 

Ed,

Here's the skivvy according to Gump.

Mortgage Backed Securities are like boxes of chocolates.

Criminals on Wall Street stole a few chocolates from the boxes and replaced them with turds.

 
Their criminal buddies at Standard & Poor rated these boxes AAA Investment Grade chocolates.

These boxes were then sold all over the world to investors.

Eventually somebody bites into a turd and discovers the crime.

Suddenly nobody trusts American chocolates anymore worldwide.

Hank Paulson now wants the American taxpayers to buy up and hold all these boxes of turd-infested chocolates for $700 billion dollars until the market for turds returns to normal.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Unwillingness to Experience Sadness

can be Expensive

Ed,

I wish to report a Hotseat with several ed-ucative issues.

Somebody steals my bike. I look three days for the positive intention of losing a bike, and cannot find any. As I tell my wife that I am really angry about spending 200 EUR for a new bike, I stomp heavily with my right leg. WAIT! This is a form! I also remember stomping heavily with the same leg in February, as I loss money in the market. And for some weeks I have an dull ache in my right knee. I see that I use losing money to medicate something.

But what?

The Hotseat: A week later, two members of my Tribe help me. (A) has an issue with "I am worthless and cannot do it" and is an excellent receiver. (B) is inexperienced and still did not manage a process.

I show a very intense form, stomping with the leg, moving the arms, and making a loud "grrrrr" sound. I try several times to reach the feeling behind the form, but it does not work. I see myself as a child, stealing some money from my grandmother, and my father judging me severely.

I understand the situation, but have no aha. I still feel that there is more hiding, but I do not find the right access to the feeling. Then, we work on the form "I do not find the right access to the feeling" (lying on the coach and rubbing my ear) until I enjoy it.

Then, I see that I can access the other feeling. I try again, with enormous physical effort, but it still does not work. Somehow, I feel irritated by (B). Then, I suggest (A) to manage the process. I tell her "I do not plan to support your $&%$(/& drama of being worthless and not being able to do things".

To be consistent in my support, I am obliged to reach the feeling and hence enable her to finish the process successfully. She agrees to be the manager and we start again. I still find it difficult to reach the feeling and ask (A) if she is really committed to support me. She says yes, but I feel some uncertainty in her and repeat the question. This time, I feel her certainty and know that she definitely supports me in my effort.

This time, I reach the feeling and experience a real explosion of anger. I lie on the floor, going into wild contortions and yelling bloody hell. I remember my father working until very late, earning a lot of money and not being at home with me as I am 3 or 4 years old. I am exhausted, but still do not understand the positive intention of losing money. No aha.

During the checkout, (A) reports thinking "I don't know if it is going to work" during the process, and being speechless as I say, spontaneously "I do not plan to support your $&%$(/& drama of being worthless and not being able to do things". (B) reports being distracted and not concentrated on supporting me. He is also surprised as I say him that I do not feel well supported and I prefer (A) to manage the process.

This reproduces his feelings. During the checkout, I feel confused and still do not understand the experience. I felt the gigantic release of tension and anger. I see that it makes no sense to lose a bike. Furthermore, I do not have to lose in the market. I just loss money if I abandon my system; it is robust and, if I follow it, I know what drawdown to expect, and that this is just part of the game. I also experience a majestic catharsis during the Hotseat. But I remember you mentioning that "in TTP, catharsis is optional". Hmmm...

The next morning, as I wake up, I feel very sad and wounded. I could cry. I tell my wife that I need her love and support. My wife is annoyed. She says "I do not understand what is happening with you, you act strange."

I feel more sadness, but she is not willing to help me. She leaves the room. She does not understand my emotional needs. And then - AHA! By losing money and feeling really angry, I cover the sadness which I experience if people do not understand me and do not respect my emotional needs. I can waste money like a drunken sailor, but people still do not understand my emotional needs. It is not an effective response, and it is expensive.

I am confused. Sometimes, my wife does not understand my emotional needs. But what should I do? The problem with TTP is that it works, and hence you have to make decisions about your life. I search for the solution for some minutes. I love my wife.

Maybe her reaction is absolutely normal and nobody can always fulfill all my emotional needs. Do I have unrealistic expectations? Should I discuss the problem with her? Should I accept that she cannot understand some of my emotional needs? Should I look for another woman? I search, and search, and finally find it: If my wife cannot, in my Tribe there are 8 people who commit to accept my feelings and my emotions.

Thank you for sharing your process.  You raise some interesting issues.

In TTP we focus less on the positive intentions of losing the bike than on on the positive intentions of the feelings of losing the bike.

If you start to address your own issues about <nobody loves me> you are likely to entrain some transient supporting drama with your wife.

In TTP we try to notice this and avoid engaging the wife in a drama in which she must learn how to medicate your feeling. 

Your approach, thanking your wife for exciting your form, and then taking the work to Tribe seems most effective.

A husband-wife relationship generally meets very specific needs for both people. 

If you try to impose an additional on-going requirement for your partner to shift into process manager mode on a moment's notice you are likely to destabilize the relationship.

TTP Tribes meet with the express purpose of conducting the process. 

Personal relationships between Tribe members outside the Tribe meeting may conflict with executing the TTP processes.

People who practice TTP for a while tend to integrate their learnings into their personalities and develop automatically effective ways of relating to others that do not invoke formal TTP process.

In Relationships

TTP manifests in the smile.

Clip: http://newark1.com/2008/04/

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Dealing With Extremes

Hi Ed,

I have just got back from a trip. It was amazing.

I have a question about the TTP: Sometimes when we go into the forms they become so extreme that it seems unhealthy. For example in one of the members forms he exhaled deeply and kept pushing the air out of his lungs, being at the same time with his head as a lowest point of his body and exhaling, exhaling. I encourage him to go for it and do more. He continues to the point of having enough and then takes a deep breath. Afterward, I realized that if he had any kind of blood vessel problem, this might have resulted in a hemorrhage, maybe a stroke. In this position the blood pressure in the skull is way greater than average.

In TTP we encourage the Sender to go as far as he pleases.  We do this by noticing where he is going and acknowledging him.  We do not push him where we think he "should" go.

You might consider taking your feelings about <hurting others> to the Hotseat.

A Critical Difference

Between Assisting and Torturing

is frequent testing for

and respect for

willingness

Clip: http://static.flickr.com/92/

November 12, 2008

Hot Seat Experience - Doing It Right

Hello Ed,

At our last tribe meeting, I take my feelings of "wanting to manage correctly" to the hot seat. The receivers apply the Field of Acknowledgment and I work through talking about the situation. As I begin to get into it, I recall being scolded as a child by parents and teachers about doing things wrong, I hear in my head, "do it right", "don't be an idiot", "do the right thing", "that's not right, no, how can you be so stupid!"

I feel wrong and rejected. I locate the feeling in my chest and get into a form in my chair hunched over, tightened up, eyes closed, face cringing, gritting my teeth and tears come. My hands are across my chest, squeezing tight. I begin to feel the feeling deep in my chest, intensely. At first, I don't like it, I say through gritted teeth, "I don't like this, I f--king hate this feeling." I scream and swear and cry. I kneel on the floor in a ball, head down, hands in my face. I really get into the feeling as I hear the receivers encouragement. My eyes are closed, squeezed tight and I just hear them around me.

I want to fully experience it, so I keep going with it. It feels tight deep in my chest and I keep my hands on my chest digging my fingers tips into my sternum and squeezing my chest. The feeling seems to be right under my sternum and extends up to both collar bones and shoulders.

I crank it up and let it intensify. The encouragement from the receivers persists and I keep at it. I start to get in tune with the feeling, notice it, experience it, it seems new, as if I've never truly felt it or really noticed it before.

I let it connect to my CM. I begin to accept it, and my CM begins to acknowledge it. I stay into it and focus totally on this feeling, CM is getting a handle on it all. I breathe deeply and fully, I accept it, I accept it. I sit back in my chair, with eyes closed and hands still on my chest. I say "I feel it right in here, Ok, yes, um-hmm." I feel it intensely. I start to feel comfortable with it, that it's OK, that it really seems to be friendly, and not so terrible.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

The Testing Work

Ed and Friends,

All your valuable help has finally paid off - big time... as I have now "finally" discovered how to make the right adjustments in my commodities system, so that it will also properly trade (long only) stock index futures.

After over 20 years of working on a stock system I can't thank you enough for your many subtle but important insights, that helped cause the light to go on recently for me etc.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

Dealing with Grief

Hi Ed,

I read your book The Trading Tribe a few months ago and found the book to be very insightful and useful in the moment of now as my life was recently thrust into turmoil by circumstances beyond my doings and thus I had little choice but to accept and deal with all the feeling and emotions as they arose and your book was helpful in guiding me to accept the feelings rather than block them or deny them as is the natural tendency (for men anyway).

Due to the extreme violence of the crime that was committed I had a wide range of emotions over time. I seemed to be in disbelief for the first week and then I went into a deep sadness for a month and now it’s a combination of sadness and acceptance and I’m now left wondering if I will ever feel anger towards the perpetrator as I have not experienced any feelings of anger as yet.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

 
Working on Trading

Ed,

Sunday, November 9, 2008

The Daffodil Principle - Video

Ed,

I like this video about making a difference, one bulb at a time.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

Programmer Goes Ballistic

Ed,

Once upon a time you inspired me to learn some programming.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

Our Tribe Rocks

Ed,

Yesterday, during a tremendous Hotseat lasting for almost 4 hours, we apply an improvised, degenerated, bad and I hope effective version of the Rocks process. Maybe you want to remember that I have never seen it in action and I am using the information from the FAQ. I appreciate comments, corrections and suggestions about this, our version of the a Rock process.

Hotseat comes from a dysfunctional family, she remembers having a dominant, violent father and a passive, submissive mother. Both tell her that did not want her and wanted to abort her. She has been in psychotherapy for some 2 years without success. She has been several times on the hot seat and reports substantial advances in several areas.

This time her issue is "I do not get the job that I want". While exploring her feelings she develops several forms related to "I have to decide alone" (heat in her stomach), "people leave me" (ducking position, rubbing hands), "money and career are bad" (head and back pain, pressure on stomach), "I decide to do it the hard way" (a black, sad, hard, heavy ball in her abdomen), "people handle me like a marionette" (head pain).

We work on each form and complete it, but each time a new issue appears. She reports intense head and neck pain.

When a member reports experiencing pain, I prefer not to make it more intense. I do not want to torture people. Instead, I provide a suggestion ("make the pain clearer").

If the pain has some attribute (hard, cold, shape), I suggest hotseat to make it colder or harder. I observe that it works. In this case, I suggest her to feel a growing pressure on her head, neck and back, and to tense the muscles to resist the pressure. This reproduces the pain sensation.

Then, I do not suggest her to increase the pain, but I say that I increase the pressure, to break her resistance. She contracts the muscles some more and experiences more discomfort. She realizes that a new job, with more chances and responsibility, provides her more chances to be used by people. The pain resolves almost completely. We then suggest her to think about making a carrier and earning loads of money, and the pain reappears, with additional stomach pain.

We work on each pain again. Her father considers her a failure. I ask her to search for the feeling and irritate her by repeating "your father thinks that you are a failure; your father sustains that you do not deserve success; I am your father and I decide that you won't have success" and so on. I am careful not to suggest her what she is, but to make clear that it is her father's opinion. She completes the form and understands the issue, but does not want to tell us about it. Pain resolves again.

But each time, when we suggest her to consider career and money, the pain reappears. I decide to suggest her to experience all pains together, and feel really bad. As she confirm feeling really bad, I ask her to search a situation when she feels so bad. She remembers an episode in her childhood.

Her father is there and she feels insecure. I ask her if somebody in her family shows insecurity related to her father. Yes, her mother does. We do not have rocks or time to squeeze her feelings in it. Hence, I ask her to look for an object who relates to her feeling of uncertainty. She imagines an old blanket, wet, musty and smelly.

I tell her that this is a gift from somebody, and that her mother just passes it to her. She decides to give the gift (the rock) back to her mother, she can do with it whatever she wants. As I say that, I feel myself a pour of emotion and start crying.

She reports that she needs us to do it, she cannot do it alone. Well, we are there. She returns the four-letter-blanket and feels released from tension. I ask her to imagine a new gift for Little Hotseat.

Thank you for sharing your process.

Holding your intention for the process to work is likely more important than mastering  the "right way" to do it.

I, too, use the technique of objectifying the "pain" into its constituent sensual properties as a way to assist Hotseat to experience it.

I also encourage Hotseat to "try it again - this this time with the notion that you enjoy it."

I know many ways to implement resources.  I like the ones that include practicing the resource through role playing - especially during a a re-play of some critical drama that invigorates the associating form.

The ritual of giving the rock back to the donor is important in registering boundaries as automatic muscle memories.

the Act of Berating Children

is typically hereditary

Clip: http://images.webster-dictionary.org/

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Sucking In

Dear Ed:

Thank you for your continuous support. Since the workshop I am making significant improvement. I doubled my asset base despite weak economic conditions.

I have completed one conservative winning system. Recently I have completed winning system based on trading equity. It was working great for few weeks however since last Friday some drama happened and I got sucked in and just couldn't follow the system.

I could not believe it but I did not follow the system. I had pay a huge penalty for not following the system today. This may be because we are conducting tribe meeting this weekend and Fred is creating drama to let me know what I need to work on.

My mother all the sudden called me this morning and left me a message. When I heard the message I knew something bad was going to happen. I made a decision not to answer the phone if she called again, yet miraculously she called multiple times. Finally I answer the call and I manage to avoid drama. Then she called again and I had to blow up on her.

She is sucking me in to situation where I am forced to somehow get in touch with my older brother and start talking again. What even makes me more mad is that she is involving money in to this mess. I made clear to her that I did not want nothing to do with my brother's life anymore and I did not appreciate she trying to manipulate her way in to this.

My brother and I are not communicating for couple of years. My brother got married and got almost divorced and now he is back with his wife with adopted son because they can't have children biologically.

When they adopted their son, I was never told of their home number and my brother instructed me to only call his cell phone. He never sent me his adopted son's picture or not even let me hear his voice. After freaking out to my Mom this morning. I was extremely exhausted. I just did not have anything in me. I realized I have tremendous Anger toward my brother.

Obviously going back I recall two incidents during childhood. My relationship with my parents are fine. I am going back to see my parents first time in years this winter. I notice that my anger toward my brother is something I have never imagined. I don't know what else to do but to do the rock process on two early child hood incident involving my brother.

I do not wish to meet with my brother again or interested in engaging in relationship. In the end, he is always afraid of me and cannot stand me so he does beyond imaginative thing to let me know his evilness. I feel sad. Tears are coming out of me as I write this. We were good friend one time for very short period of time. I think I freaked out on my mom because somehow I feel that my Mom had lot to do with my Brother's behavior towards me.

She expected so much for my older brother and he build up so much fear so only way to conquer his fear was to do nasty thing to me so I will go away. She would constantly create situation so that me and my brother would compete for her recognition. Her controlling and dominate nature is evident.

Thank you for reading my email. I hope your legs are better now. I want to input a proactive rock to follow the system. Do you have any insight. I appreciate your feed back. I miss Incline Village too. If OK I like to attend upcoming tribe meeting. Please let me know of the schedule.

Thank you for sharing your process.

You might consider taking your feelings about <breasts> to Tribe.

To a Child

sucking is equivalent

to staying alive.

Clip: http://www.mydochub.com/images/

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Wants More Information on Rocks

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

Wants a Workshop

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

Lack of Commitment is a Periphrasis for Fear.

Two members of my Tribe stop attending regularly.

One of them has excuses (invitations, holidays), the other reports feeling worse and not seeing progress. I discuss the issue with each of them and inform them that I accept any behavior without limitation, but that as long as they do not clearly state that they leave the Tribe, I assume that they just using excuses to avoid facing their feelings.

I support one member who is uncertain about further attendance by prohibiting her to attend meetings as long as she does not want to attend a meeting, and prohibiting her to take the hot seat as long as she is not willing to take it. This calms and helps her.

I also inform them that invitations, asking them for help to organize a wedding party and so on, are just help via the Under-Fred Network to avoid facing their hidden feelings.

One of the members is very surprised by this insight, and realizes that it is true. The member who "feels worse" in fact reports observing a complete resolution of the issue who brought her to my Tribe (I hope I could "feel worse" too).

Thank you for sharing your process and your insights.

You might consider taking your feelings about <wanting to calm her down> to the hot seat.

Autumn / Winter in Incline is a good time for a visit.  The other good times are Summer and Spring.

A preference for Calm Women ...

... over Fully Expressive Ones

may indicate less about the women

than about your own fears

and preferences.

Clips:

http://www.quizilla.com/user_images/M/MA/

MAR/Marie-Therese/1130965809_swaterquiz.JPG

Monday, November 3, 2008

Magazine Cover

Ed,

This, from October 20 New Yorker.