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Questions

(Quotes from Ed in Red)

Fri, 30 Jun 2006

She Might Not Be Open

see Longing, below

Ed Says:

Fred (or Frieda, if you prefer) is a pump and does not have an agenda to gain freedom, respect and love - and is not open for having a "relationship" with you.

You might consider taking your longings for a mate to the hot seat.

No pump thanks. As far as the longing for a mate is concerned, you're right to the point.

I have been flirting with a girl I wish to date. It happens so she might not be open for having a relationship with me. I am receptive though to whatever outcome.

With regard to the agenda, I acknowledge I have some codependent patterns in relationships. I have recovered a lot in the past two years but I am still on the path to freedom, peace and full recovery.

After all, "I" am the one who wants freedom, respect and love for myself. I owe a lot of my recovery to a special friend who gave me a lot of her attention, support and love in the past few years.

You might consider telling your friend your feelings - in this case, that you want to date her.  That is a nice compliment for her.

If sharing your feelings and / or talking to women does not come easy for you, you might consider joining or starting a Tribe.

See First Meeting, below

The Woman You Seek

might be running toward you,

waiting for you to let her know

your feelings.

Clip: http://www.trackandfieldnews.com/

Fri, 30 Jun 2006

First Tribe Meeting

Dear Ed,

I attend my first Trading Tribe meeting two days ago. Thank you for putting me in touch with [Name] and so making the process possible and available to
me.

I enjoy the process and the men. I experience their openness and caring hearts. I feel welcome and participate easily.

The man working does so deeply.

I feel somewhat intimidated at times, thinking that at some point I too intend to share myself that deeply. During check out I express feeling intimidated and immediately feel empowered and lighter.

The following morning I wake up feeling lighter, more energetic, clearer about my direction. All this seems to come from supporting another man in his work.

Thank you for sharing your process.

Fri, 30 Jun 2006

Thanks (from my Son)

see: Curious Child, below

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

Longing for Love

Ed Says:

You can get answers to your risk and reward questions by back-testing.

You can get answers to your stomach questions on the hot seat.

Fred the feeling pump is a personification of a tendency to keep replaying feelings until you are willing to experience them. 

If you are unwilling to experience a feeling you are also blind to the danger you might otherwise prevent by having the feeling on your emotional instrument panel.  Thus, you tend to attract further drama that excites the same feeling.

Extending the Fred personification, Fred, working with other Freds in the Under Fred Network sets up the dramas you need to help you experience your k-nots.

Fred has one mission: namely, to get you to experience your feelings and generate wisdom in the process.

Fred (or Frieda, if you prefer) is a pump and does not have an agenda to gain freedom, respect and love - and is not open for having a "relationship" with you.

If you are considering having a relationship with a pump, you might first consult FAQ:  Pumping Up, below.

You might consider taking your longings for a mate to the hot seat.

Soul Mates

connect on many levels.

Clip: http://www.laura-art.com/PSP/

Fri, 30 Jun 2006

I do not know if it's essential for you to have children.

It is, however, essential that someone have them.

If You Want to Have a Race

you need runners.

Clip: http://www.ahs.uwaterloo.ca/~museum/

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

A Change of Heart

Hello Ed,

I notice a change in your FAQ responses. Before, I feel that sometimes you push buttons and at times almost touch the third rail of TTP ("telling off').

Thank you for noticing. 

Maybe this TTP stuff actually works.

Thank You for the Note

Clip: http://www.giseis.alaska.edu/

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

TTP Flashcards Efficiency
see: TTP_Flashcards, below


Hi Ed,

I was asked by the chief to provide some insight into my comment regarding TTP Flashcard efficiency. If you would prefer a word other than efficiency (time based), perhaps efficacy might be more suitable.

First, on a micro level there is no storytelling or searching for a feeling, since you are provided a feeling via the flashcard. Also, the intention to stay on task with a single feeling is included as part of the process.

Second, you know this feeling resonates with someone else in the tribe, since they supplied the feeling at the start of the meeting.

Thank you for sharing how you conduct the Flashcard Process.

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

More Slippery Slopes

see Slippery Slopes - 2

First of all, the "why" question was rhetorical.

Additionally, I have found that people who object to "why" questions are:

1. rigidly authoritarian (i.e. parents who say to their kids "because I said so, that's why")

 

2. those with something to hide (i.e. purveyors of junk science who don't want anyone poking holes in their unsubstantiated theories)

Second of all, the only feeling all of this evokes is a mild annoyance at having someone decide FOR me and then tell me what I'm feeling. Especially when it misses the mark.

This scenario reminds me of the patient who arrives at the hospital during a power outage when no lab tests can be performed with a vague non specific complaint -- let's say, fever.

The patient is assigned specialist after specialist each of whom finds that the most likely diagnosis is one within their area of expertise.

The ENT specialist thinks the patient has sinusitis.

The cardiologist thinks it's endocarditis.

The urologist things its nephritis.

The neurologist thinks its meningitis.

Are these clinicians evil, driven by profit motives, trying to grab the patient (and his/her insurance dollars) for themselves?

Hmmm ... after carefully re-reading your letter, I am willing to revise my "diagnosis" from anger to mild annoyance.

So you might consider taking mild annoyance to the hot seat - or at least becoming mildly annoyed by my suggestion.

Mild Annoyance

Note to Receivers:

If the other person says

they feel mild annoyance

and you are absolutely positive

 it's at least irritation,

or anger, or even volcanic fury,

go with what the other person says

even if you find doing so

is mildly annoying.

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

The Wondering Surgeon

Dear Chief,

Two months ago I discover that I have a rare heart tumor. I choose to wait a month before my open-heart surgery.

I present to my tribe a snapshot that includes a work related commitment, a relationship challenge, a commitment to enjoy my birthday, and a commitment to significantly increase my workout practice.

By the end of the first month I accomplish the work-related commitment, struggle with the relationship challenge, greatly enjoy my birthday and fail to maintain my former workout schedule.

Using the causal model, I can blame the outcome on constant disruptions of my "good intentions".

After surgery, my surgeon informs me that a large and dangerous clot that he finds sitting on top of my tumor and removes, is an extremely dangerous formation. He expresses wonder that I am still alive.

I think that Fred knows better. I believe in positive intention! One month later my recovery astounds and delights me and my cardiologists.

Thank you for sharing your process.

Heart Surgery

like TTP,

is something that works better

with the help of others.

Clip: http://encarta.msn.com/media_461516409/

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

Cannot Be Present at the Open

Hi Ed,

I hope you are well. Please note that I cannot attend the opening evening of the Workshop on Friday 21st as I plan to arrive to Cambridge late on Friday evening, mainly due to work commitments / travel schedules.

Friday evening, we cover essential material and complete several essential exercises.

I wish to to protect the interests of the other participants, so I cannot interrupt Saturday to bring you up to speed.

All the other participants, so far, seem to have various commitments and are able to control their travel schedules to honor all of them.

You might consider taking your feelings about assuming conflicting commitments and then trying to wiggle out of them to the hot seat.

Over-Committing

may indicate k-nots about fear.

Fear k-nots

tend to entrain to situations

involving over-commitment

and high risk.

Clip: http://www.arrakeen.ch/asia97/

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Thu, 29 Jun 2006

Pumping Up Our Justice System

These guys judge people?

Story about a Judge

using an impotence pump in the courtroom:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060628/

As governments grow bigger, they tend to to grow more out of touch with the citizens and more in touch with themselves.

Impotence Vacuum Pump

A manual or electronic pump gradually withdraws the air from the cylinder, creating a vacuum and drawing blood into the penis. Once the penis is rigid, an elastic band or "tension ring" replaces the cylinder to maintain the pressure.  Warning: be sure to remove the ring after 30 minutes.

Recently, drugs such as Viagra, Cialis, Levitra and Uprima are having a softening effect on the vitality of pump manufacturers.

Personal note: The common nickname for Erectile Dysfunction is, "ED" so I can now say that I appear in more Viagra ads than Bob Dole.
 

Clip: http://www.impotence-guide.com/

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

Wants an Ad on FAQ

Thu, 29 Jun 2006

Kid Raising

Sir,

I have a one and a half year old kid.

One nice gift you can give your child is your commitment to work on yourself.

A Happy Child

is a common symptom

of evolving parents.

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

If you were the mother and if you were to write to FAQ than I might also were to answer the question.

If Pigs Had Wings

people would buy stronger hats.

Clip: http://mariah.stonemarche.org/

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

Wants Advice on System Design

Ed, I have been doing some simulations on my system and I am not sure about one aspect: I design my system choosing a method which I feel is robust.

I test it and optimize it choosing parameters which I feel are robust enough (not too sensitive to parameters variation), and give me the best reward/risk probabilities. Then I do some portfolio simulations to assess the probabilities of drawdowns and rewards.

I determine my optimal bet fraction with my "stomach" as I assess the drawdowns, equity curve, break-even( or loss), and reward probabilities. Then I feel I have my system ready to go online.

At this point I have to decide how much I can invest and if I am going to allow myself for subsequent funds deposits and withdrawals.

Out of hunch, I feel that I would better have the system "closed" for subsequent deposits and withdrawals, i.e., I determine the probabilities of reward and risk, the time frame to run the system, how much I am going to invest and run it from start to end of the time frame period (I am thinking about at least 15 years of so).

Thank you for sharing your process.

You can get answers to your risk and reward questions by back-testing.

You can get answers to your stomach questions on the hot seat.

A K-not in Your Stomach

can interfere

with following your system.

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

Thank you for sharing your process - and your

AHA about day trading.

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

FAQ does not answer "why" questions.  See Ground Rules, above.

You might consider taking your feelings about having children to the hot seat.

Parent Carrying Child

If you want to find out

about raising kids

you might try asking your parents.

Clip: http://www.neystadt.org/john/album/

Tanzania2003/Animals/DSCN1218-

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

Astrologers study the relationship of celestial bodies to events on Earth.

To believe is to put faith or trust in the validity of something.

Perhaps you see the act of believing somehow applying to the act of studying.

You might consider taking the feeling of wanting to believe in something to the hot seat.

W. C. Fields

(1880 - 1946)

Everybody has to believe in something.

I believe I'll have another drink.

Wed, 28 Jun 2006

Cause and Effect & Responsibility Mix Up

Hi Ed,

Are the following statements interchangeable?

No effect can exist without a cause.

No result can exist without an intention.

Also, are guilt and blame just feelings to be experienced?

You may certainly interchange any statements if you wish.

By mixing these particular statements, you are intermixing the causal and responsibility models.

If you are dealing from this mix-up,  you might then  associate blame with responsibility, cause with intention and experience with result.

Blame and guilt are artifacts of the causal model.

You might consider taking your desire to know the answers such mix-up questions to the hot seat.

Drum Machine

If like mixing differing statements

you might consider

programming a drum machine

with the sound of one hand clapping.

Tue, 27 Jun 2006

Slippery Slopes - 2

see Slippery Slopes, below


If my intention is to hurt myself, and I accomplished that - why would I then be angry?

FAQ does not answer "why" questions.  See ground rules.

Why questions ask for causal-model reasons such as posting your desire for time off and/or attention as the cause for your skiing injury.

You might consider taking your desire to find reasons and causes to the hot seat.

Rube Goldberg

(1883 - 1970)

Rube Goldberg gains fame

as a cartoonist who draws

fantasy machines

with complex causal linkages.

Clip: http://www.anl.gov/Careers/

Education/rube/Images/rube_napkin.gif

Tue, 27 Jun 2006

Doesn't Understand

HI Ed. Mon 26th June 2006 FAQ (Curious Child) probably tells a lot. However I don't understand a bit of it. I keep reading it over and over, hopefully I get it.

Anyway thank you for responding to the FAQ on May 26th June FAQ. I thought I got a grip of my emotional instrumental panel, however my understanding is that when you got a k-not (I don't know what kind) and your drama is total destruction my understanding is that drama occurs.

It happened this morning too. But I don't get frustrated anymore. I probably just have to go to the hot seat but I wonder what feeling I should take to the hot seat. May be feeling of wanting to be totally destructed?

That's probably it. I appreciate your opinion. TTP gets confusing sometimes. By the way I got another committed member for my tribe all the sudden and we are going to have our first TTP meeting on July 13th.

Tue, 27 Jun 2006

Causal Model and System Model

on the Slippery Slopes

Ed,

Okay, I'm confused about this, but it would make a good master card ad, eh?

28 days on skis

toned abs, gluts and quads, 13 lb weight loss.

2 days on snowboards

1 probable rotator cuff tear, 1 meniscus tear, 1 arthroscopic surgery (pending).

Tape of me babbling about snow while under anesthesia

PRICELESS

Announcer: Don't forget to bring your MASTER CARD to the surgi-center for the 20% co-payment.

So, I understand that the snowboard didn't CAUSE the injury, and the 19=year old instructor didn't CAUSE the injury (I did sign the waiver establishing this.)

Thank you for sharing your process.

In the causal model, a waiver can, curiously, "cause" the instructor to stop being a cause.

In the causal model, wanting to be young can be a cause of your injury, as can the snowboard, your goggles, the moguls, having your mind on other things, etc.

Professional causalists such as some politicians, extortionists and petty manipulators specialize in finding ways to link things together in cause-effect chains. 

They generally try to make people feel guilty in hopes they can extract something from the "guilty" party in exchange for absolution.

You can generally stop a petty-manipulator by stating, "Thank you for helping me feel guilty - I rather like the feeling."

In the system-responsibility model, your intention = result = hurting yourself.

In the SR model you are not to blame, nor is anyone else or anything else.  Blame and guilt do not support the SR model. 

Blame and guilt rest on the notion of cause.  If cause disappears, so do blame and guilt - and so does the basis for the corrupt aspects of our legal-political system.

You likely have feelings about your incident, perhaps anger.  You might consider taking your feelings to the hot seat.

Angry Wound

If you are willing to experience anger,

it becomes an ally

and helps you set boundaries

such as how much risk to assume

while skiing,

or trading,

or just hanging out.

If you are unwilling to experience anger

Fred has a way

of entraining you in dramas

that assists you

in experiencing your anger

and any other feelings

you might have in k-nots.

Clip: http://www.highway60.com/mark/

Tue, 27 Jun 2006

TTP Flashcards

see references, below: 1 2

TTP is largely empirical.  It evolves by experimentation, by trial and error and by accident.

The experiences that people report to FAQ help motivate others to apply TTP in their own lives.

Occasionally someone comes up with a clever idea or an extension of the process and sends it in to FAQ so people can experiment with it.

You might be able to find out more about the Flashcard Process by trying it out.

Tue, 27 Jun 2006

Grouchy Child

Hi Ed,

How do you receive a grouchy 4-year-old child?

She is clearly upset and grumbling.

She sits far away from her mother as a kind of protest. When her mother invites her to come sit next to her, she turns her head and pretends she does not hear.

So to validate her feeling, does one just "go with her game" and keep ignoring her?

After all, that is the feeling she is creating a drama to experience, correct?

If so, then how does one even "crank it up"?

Thank you for sharing your process.

I am unclear to whom you refer with some of your uses of her and she.

TTP is not a tool to change other people - or to subject them to process without invitation.

In public, receiving another person (active listening) usually strengthens the relationship, while attempts to manage process ("OK, great, crank it up.") usually offend.

If you want to use TTP to control others or intervene in their lives without invitation, you might consider taking your own issues about wanting to do so to the hot seat.

Petulant Children

are generally signaling,

with their naughtiness,

that their parents have k-nots,

about trying to control others.

CLip: http://www.fotosearch.com/

Mon, 26 Jun 2006

Curious Child

Hi Ed!!

How are you, my friend??

I am glad you are busy being great parents and bringing up insatiably curious kids.

My favorite questions seem to come from children, of all ages.

-----

To my young friend:

Your brain sends signals to your muscles through pathways of tiny neurons, with a combination of electrical and chemical reactions.

These signals travel along the neuron pathways at a speed of anywhere from 1 to 120 meters per second.

Your response time depends on which brain you use.  You actually have several brains, including a small fast brain and a large slow one.

Your Cerebellum (Latin for little brain) helps you do things quickly, by reflex, like moving your hand when you touch something hot, or contracting  your irises when you flip on the lights or balancing on your bicycle.

Your Frontal Lobe is your larger "thinking brain."  This one is slower and it helps you with reading and writing and arithmetic and with figuring things out.

When your hand touches something hot, stopping to think things out with your Frontal Lobe is not such a "hot" idea.  It's way too slow. Your Cerebellum gets your hand safely away before you even know about it with your Frontal Lobe.

When you first try to ride a bicycle, you use your Frontal Lobe. You try to think about everything you are doing, and you fall off your bicycle a  lot. 

After a while, you train your Cerebellum and you "get the feel of it."  Then you can ride your bicycle without thinking about it very much at all.

By the way, the same thing goes for skateboarding, skiing, and in my own son's case, kite surfing.

Some Parts of The Brain

To find out how fast your brain works, you can try this experiment:

Have your dad hold a ruler by one end so it hangs down about half way between your thumb and index finger. 

Without telling you, he drops the ruler and you try to catch it by pinching your fingers together.  Do this a few times to find out how far the ruler falls before you can catch it.

This distance is your "reaction distance."

Now, with a little math¹, and maybe your dad's help, you can use your reaction distance and your Frontal Lobe to figure out your reaction time.

Your reaction time tells you how fast your fingers can respond to what you see with your eyes.

Your reaction time is a very important factor to remember when you are driving a car.  Safe drivers keep a lot of distance between them and the car in front, in case of emergency.

1. Math Note:

gravitational acceleration = 32 ft. / sec. / sec.

distance from rest = 1/2 * a * t²

so time = sqrt ( 2 * s / 32), in feet and seconds

So, for a 6-inch drop,

time = sqrt ( 2 * .5 / 32)

       = about a fifth of one second.

Clip: http://ww2.heartandstroke.ca/

images/english/english_brain.jpg

More Information on Neurons: http://www.people.eku.edu/

Mon, 26 Jun 2006

re: Programming

Ed says: Associates have access to the Trading Tribe Growth Engine - a software resource for back testing and optimizing trading systems.

You might consider taking your feeling or overwhelm to the hot seat.

Yes. Actually I don't find it reasonable to go through the whole programming learning curve myself, as there are many good, flexible scripts and software out there.

Yes, I do have to take this feeling of overwhelm to the hotseat.

Mon, 26 Jun 2006

Programming

Ed,

I programmed and run my system using a third party software with built-in script language.

Sometimes I feel like learning programming so as to write my own proprietary software. I think that C# might be a good choice and I have the necessary learning resources.

However, I feel overwhelmed at beginning the task of learning programming so as to write a windows trading software, capable of displaying charts, handling data files, doing portfolio simulation, issuing alerts, money management and portfolio back testing.

Associates have access to the Trading Tribe Growth Engine - a software resource for back testing and optimizing trading systems.

You might consider taking your feeling of overwhelm to the hot seat.

The Feeling of Overwhelm

in a k-not,

can attract frustration drama.

On your emotional instrument panel

it can help you avoid

the same kind of drama.

Clip: http://www.nevrona.com/portals/

Mon, 26 Jun 2006

Avoiding Using

Weapons of Self Destruction

HI Ed.

Hope you are well. The recent tribe meeting experience have been unbelievable.

Deep AHA's and significant improvement in trading. I focused hard on experiencing Frustration, Why Me and little bit of Should I ?.

I thank you for your observation wholeheartedly. At the last meeting I have refined my snapshots and working hard on the right livelihood. Interesting development have occurred and decided to share this with FAQ.

My recent snapshots on Right livelihood is to partnership up with my business associate who is extremely successful businessman. We have been talking for a while to be partner for our financial advisory LLC.

The situation evolves into exactly as my snapshots except the outcome experiences a set back. That is my friend wanted to check the company that I established 3 years ago to see if its properly filed or missing any documentation and further investigate the liability aspects of the business.

I was fascinated by his view because I never thought of doing that. He explained to me the importance of the issue and I waited for the result. Turn out this LLC was dissolved two month ago for non-filing and non-payment of some kind of fees that I did not exists.

Plus I was not correctly understanding the solicitation filing and regulation for this matter. Basically I was setting up for a total disaster and destruction.

Thank God I got only one customer. So we are starting all over correctly this time which I am extremely thankful of.

Going back to trading I no longer engage in frustration drama. However I notice that partial self sabotage, self destruction occurred this morning. So I sit back and investigate my drama for a while and I feel that my Total Destruction/Self Sabotage drama occurs in medium waves and quietly preparing for the Big Ones especially when things are going well.

It occurs in trading and real life to make sure it is satisfied ultimately. While I am writing this I am trying to figure out what the feeling I should take it to the Hot Seat. I feel it would be a breakthrough to take care of this K-not.

Thank you for sharing your process.

You now seem to be detecting and avoiding dramas - rather than attracting and living them.

The Feeling of Frustration

in a k-not,

can attract frustration drama.

On your emotional instrument panel

it can help you avoid

the same kind of drama.

Clip:  http://www.crystalinks.com/

helpingfrustration.html

Sun, 25 Jun 2006

Oldie and Goodie

Sun, 25 Jun 2006

FAQ Poem
 

Sun, 25 Jun 2006

Flash Cards - 2

I thank you for your suggestion

re: Flash Cards,  FAQ 24 Jun 2006

Chief Ed writes: "...You might consider writing down "positive" feelings as well - some people, particularly workaholic types, might have more trouble showing forms of happiness and excitement than forms of fear and anger ..."


I thank you for your suggestion. There are so many emotions therefore I also consider how to prioritize which ones we do at the meeting. I believe because of our collective intention to feel our feelings and work toward right livelihood we clarify and make efficient the process extension.


In the TTP flashcard process, 25% of other members' "negative" emotions I feel are "positive" emotions for me. I feel that when I am on the hotseat with this member's card, he cognitively does not recognize my (animated, smiling) forms as corresponding to his "negative" emotion. I have a hunch that his subconscious might be "feeling?" the judge that he associates with that emotion.


"...The woods are lovely, dark and deep.
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep ..."

-Robert Frost

http://www.everypoet.com/archive/poetry/

Robert_Frost/robert_frost_stopping_by

OK.

Robert Frost

(March 26, 1874 - December 23, 1962)

Caption:

"Good Fences Make Good Neighbors"

November 1, 1950

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
-- Robert Frost, The Road Not Taken
 

A poem begins in delight and ends in wisdom.
--Robert Frost

Clip: http://img.timeinc.net/time/magazine/

archive/covers/1950/1101501009_400.jpg

Quotations: http://www.quotationspage.com/

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Associate Program 


My partner and I would like to become a part of your associate program.

Although, we have a few questions which will hopefully help others in determining their interest in this program as well.

Due to certain constraints we are currently using Excel as our mode to backtest/trade our system. Yes it's archaic, but it works for us - for now.

My question is, given the size of the file, what would be the best method to send our model to you? Secondly, to what extent are the parameters of each system published/released?

We agree with the premise that our rules could be published in the wall st journal (circa Richard Dennis - Market Wizards) due to the discipline needed to follow your system, but we were just curious.

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Paradoxes

People have to be:

 
Strong enough to be weak
Successful enough to fail
Busy enough to take time
Wise enough to say, “I don’t know.”
Serious enough to laugh
Rich enough to be poor
Right enough to say “I’m wrong”
Compassionate enough to discipline
Conservative enough to give freely
Mature enough to be childlike
Righteous enough to be a sinner
Important enough to be last
Courageous enough to fear God
Planned enough to be spontaneous
Controlled enough to be flexible
Free enough to endure captivity
Knowledgeable enough to ask questions
Great enough to be anonymous
Responsible enough to play
Assured enough to be rejected
Stable enough to cry
Victorious enough to lose
Industrious enough to relax
Leading enough to serve.

Source: http://www.wfa.org/newsletter/

Yes.

Willingness to experience a form empowers you to experience it's opposite as well.

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Wants Advice

Dear Ed,

I need recommendations on the best options for getting started.

FAQ does not recommend products.  See Ground Rules, above.

You might consider taking your feelings of needing recommendations from others to the hot seat.

Free Advice About The Markets

usually isn't.

Clip: http://www.leicesterstudent.org/system/

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Responding to Demands


Hi Ed,

I take the hot seat with an issue revolving around my response to demands made by others. I seem to submit to these demands, even if it is not in my best interest.

After providing a few examples I recall one of these examples and experience the feelings that arise. My process manager directs me as my receivers encourage me by drumming.

Thank you for sharing your process.

When People Interact by Demands

both parties, likely,

carry k-nots.

Clip: http://www.cncr04s.com/stewie/

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

No Title

Sat, 24 Jun 2006

Advice on Tantrums - From an Expert

(from an email newsletterl)

Have a Defiant Child Problem? Get Your Child to Behave with this  Simple Step-by-Step Action Plan

This tip has been proven time and again to work and can make your burden as a parent easier.

The Tantrum Technique: The next time your child throws a tantrum, escort your child to a place that you have made tantrum proof and encourage him to continue his tantrum.

The reason this technique works is that many times children act out in order to irritate their parents.

This gives them a feeling of control.

By showing that this behavior doesn’t bother you, it takes away a lot of the incentive for your child to act this way.

However, when you employ these techniques you have to do them in such a way that that it comes across that their behavior really doesn’t bother you.